There is no Magic without Motion.

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It is the actions we take, the small steps that we make towards the things we want to create in our lives that make the difference.


I wish I could dance like this but it is not going to happen because I am not prepared to take the steps required to create this dance magic.


The question is where do you want to create magic in your life and what actions are you willing to take?


I love travelling, seeing interesting things and meeting new people. I have no trouble planning my trips. Researching the country I am visiting. Talking to people who have traveled to this destination before. I learn from their experiences, places to stay, things to see and how to make the most from this journey. I set aside time because I am investing a lot in having the best holiday possible. People love to help, they want me to have a great time as well and they are delighted to share and support my journey. This is true in life as well. When I apply this strategy to other things in my life magic happens. 


What strategies could you apply to create magic in other areas of your life. 

The Meaning of Communication is the Response that it gets.

Have you ever had a conversation and walked away thinking well that was a waste of time, they just don't get it! 


The realisation that the success of my communication could be measured by the response that I got was both daunting and empowering.
Daunting because I thought I was a really good communicator, a good listener and it is so much easier to blame the other person. Can't they see reason....Why can't they see my point of view?... Every time I received a negative response, I would walk away frustrated, angry or just plain bewildered. How did we end up there? 


We all know that communication is more than the words we speak. 
The often quoted statistics based on the research of Albert Mehrabian are:
7% of meaning in the words that are spoken.
38% of meaning is paralinguistic (the way that the words are said).Tone, pitch, rhythm
55% of meaning is in facial expression, body language

So if you are not getting the response that you want from a communication what can you do?

This is the empowering piece. As we know we can't change anyone else but we can change the way we communicate. 
This requires reflection. 


These are some of the questions I ask myself.

What outcome do I want? Clarity is important.

What are the facts?

What are my emotions around this discussion? What am I saying to myself. Self talk has a way of showing up.

So although you might be saying one thing, what you really think is also being heard, seen or felt. 

Am I open to listening to another point of view.

How am I going to keep on track and obtain an acceptable outcome for all parties?

Poor communication is at the heart of most arguments,disagreements and bad feelings. 

There are some great books " Crucial Conversation Tools for talking when the stakes are high" Patterson et al

"Fierce Conversations" Susan Scott 

NLP has focused my attention on how I communicate. what is working and where and when I need to try out a new strategy.
I now understand that communication is the response that I  get and this is useful to me.